I don’t know where this came from, but several days ago my friend sent me a message “always keep an eye out for people who don’t clap when you succeed”. As weird as it can be, at that time I was being very positive. I replied, “a flower does not competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms”. I shouldn’t care about people who are not by my side when I achieve something. This kind of thing happens to show us who’s really matters in our life.
And my friend replied “but we’re not flowers. We’re human.”
Those kind of people (who don’t clap when we succeed) do exist. However, don’t let them destroy you. Don’t even let them pop out in your mind and shake your faith and confidence. But still, treat them nicely. I believe all they need is a little bit of kindness in their life.
Here are some tips on how you can keep calm when facing those people.
I am very inspired of this phrase ‘inner peace’. I first heard it from the movie Kung Fu Panda and I feel like it’s an awesome thing. The movie didn’t elaborate more about inner peace but it did show how inner peace can bring a very powerful energy to ourselves. A positive energy. It makes us calm and kind. There are many articles on the internet about how to find an inner peace. The most fundamental thing of inner peace is acceptance, or in Bahasa Indonesia I used to say ‘legowo’, ‘ikhlas’. My religion teaches me to do everything because of God and to believe firmly that everything will turn back to God. It’s easier said than done but it does help me to find my inner peace. When you have this inner peace, you just don’t care of your competitor. You’re not seeking for any compliment or praise from other people. As I said earlier, you just bloom.
Logic over ego
Human has a brain to think. At this moment, we really need to use it before our ego starts to control over. Sometimes people’s critics are essentially true. Maybe they just don’t say it in a right way which we can accept. I know enough that it’s hard to embrace critics. It feels a bit like they don’t value your effort. But life is harsh, in a way that it will help us grow. It their critics are true, say thank you and prove them that we can do better. If it’s not true, then back to rule number 1. Inner peace, you’re not doing something for them and they don’t matter.
Be around the support system
Who’s your support system? For me, it’s my family and best friends (although later in life you will know who your real best friends are). They are people who matters to us. They clap when we succeed and they support us when we fail. As we all are only humans, we need support. We’re strong but sometimes we need other people. So these are the people we look up to, in times of ease and difficulty.
Those are 3 tips to bloom, to grow in the world full of people with different roles in our life. Don’t hate them. Let them help you grow.
♥ Atiqah Zulfa Nadia