Finding Gems in Charity Shops

Anyone been to Big Bad Wolf? I just went there this morning and found some pretty good deals. Most of them are good deals, actually. If you’re asking, Big Bad Wolf is a book sale event where you can get cheap new books (for half price or even less). Located in ICE, BSD. Long way ride, indeed. But if you’re a bookworm just like me, the event is worth coming to.

And yesterday I started watching the brand new netflix series: Girlboss. I have watched it up to episode 5 and I’m going to continue watching. Because it’s damn good. There’s not too much romance (well, at least until episode 5) and it’s very real. Very 23-years-old-woman’s life; hate becoming an adult, confused, and continuously searching for things that we really do want to do in life – for the rest of our life. Well, basically it’s about a girl who manages an e-bay business. She goes to charity shops and then looking for some treasures. Once found, she sells it online. (I hope this isn’t too much of a spoiler).

So, those 2 things have reminded me of what it’s like finding gems in charity shops. When I was living in Manchester, I’m quite a fan of charity shops. If you’re wondering, it’s a place where people give their unused stuffs and then the shop re-sell it with cheap price. All the money that comes will be given for charity. I wonder if this kind of business model can also be implemented in Indonesia.. I believe we all have too much clothes in our wardrobe which are rarely worn, too much books on the shelf just for collection, and too much stuffs in our house just because we think someday we might need them. Don’t we?

There are so many charity shops in Manchester. Got one just right in front of my hall door. They sell clothes, shoes, books, kitchen utensils, home appliances, and so on. There are more charity shops in Didsbury. Charity shops are standing side by side.

Isn’t this charity shop very cute? (Source:

My friend, Agnes, is the one who told me for the very first time that I can actually find gems in charity shops. Honestly I’m a bit skeptical about buying clothes in charity shops (what if the previous owner got a skin disease or has been wearing it so recklessly?). So I never did. But I did check them out, I moved from one aisle to another just to look at the clothes the try them on in the fitting room. And there were many good stuffs, indeed. I just need to be patient.

It’s a bit like gambling, actually. You never really know what you’re going to get. It’s either you find nothing or you find something really-really good that makes you scream “so much win!“.

Since I didn’t buy clothes, I bought another thing from charity shops. Books. Mostly cook books. I got Gordon Ramsay’s cook book with his signature on it for less than Ā£4. So it’s around IDR 80,000. Isn’t that amazing?? The charity shops have various kinds of book, but they may not have all. I also bought Malcolm Gladwell’s The Tipping Point from a charity shop.

I kinda miss strolling down Didsbury road, going in and out of charity shops, and then being overly satisfied when I found good stuff for a cheap price. Or maybe I just simply love the experience of shopping in charity shops, seeing the vintage goods, having short conversation with old people in the shops (because the customers are mostly elderly people that would gladly comment “oh that jacket looks good on you, love”), or maybe I just like the idea of people in Manchester are not ashamed of buying secondhand goods. On the plus side, if someone buys something from charity shops, she’s also doing a charity, right?


Well, something good is sometimes found in the most unexpected place, isn’t it? šŸ™‚


ā™„ Atiqah Zulfa Nadia


Ignorance is a Bliss

Minggu lalu aku baru aja selesai baca sebuah buku yang menarik banget. Judulnya The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. Intinya buku tersebut mau mengajarkan kita untuk ngga ambil pusing mengenai terlalu banyak hal. We should pay attention to several matters in life, but not everything. Yang pertama tentu karena we only have this much of attention span, and 24 hours a day, 7 days a week untuk bisa memikirkan semua hal dalam hidup. Kedua, karena ada hal-hal yang di luar kendali kita and we can only do so little about it. Ketiga, karena as I’ve written about this in another post, society is way too noisy. Dan hidup setiap orang ngga bisa di-sama-samain. We all are unique.

Nah alasan keempatnya nih, which is the last chapter of the book, yang aku suka banget. And it’s a very good reminder for us all. Alasan tersebut adalah cause we will end up dying.

We ain’t gonna live forever. Pada akhirnya ada satu waktu di mana kita harus meninggalkan kehidupan kita di dunia. We’re gonna die anyway, jadi buat apa terlalu mikirin hal-hal yang kurang penting, things that do not matter so much in our life. So we gotta pick very carefully and very wisely, hal-hal apa saja yang mau kita pedulikan dalam hidup ini.

Since we’re going to die, one day, hal-hal tersebut harus merupakan sesuatu yang meaningful. Many people try to leave traces in this world. Ada yang nulis buku, menciptakan sesuatu, dan lain-lain supaya ketika mereka meninggal, mereka ngga benar-benar hilang dari muka bumi. And if you believe in the life after death just like me, kita tentu juga harus make sure bahwa hal yang kita pedulikan tersebut bisa membawa kita ke kehidupan yang lebih baik setelah meninggal nanti.

Some said ignorance is a bliss. Yes, true, only if we choose the right things to ignore. As compensation, we also have the right things to care about (or like the book said, to give a f*ck about). Sooo, dengan memilah-milah mana yang penting dan mana yang engga, beban hidup jadi lebih ringan and we will end up being happier. Who wouldn’t want that?


ā™„ Atiqah Zulfa Nadia

Semua Indah pada Waktunya

When I was a kid, I joined a painting class. Every time I came to the class, I had to produce one painting. Pretty often I was not so happy with my painting. Either I hate the color or simply that I don’t like the picture. Yet my teacher always told me this “one day, this painting will look good. It depends on your mood, on the ambience, on the surroundings, etc. just keep it. And you’ll see that this is a great painting.”

That’s true about art. Kalau di film Monalisa Smile, Julia Roberts sempat bertanya ke murid-muridnya. Apa itu seni? Siapa yang menilai suatu karya itu seni atau bukan, dan sebagainya. Funny enough bahwa suatu karya sederhana bisa bernilai seni tinggi kalau yang membuat adalah pelukis terkenal. The exact same painting mungkin ngga akan berharga tinggi kalau cuma orang-orang seperti aku yang melukis.

But no. That’s not my point. Poinku adalah bahwa semua indah pada waktunya.

I’m now starting to believe in timing. As a human, which has so many limitation, timing is important. Ever heard the sayings “you can have everything you want. But not in the same time”? That’s, in my opinion, exactly how it is. If we have everything, all at once, we’re going to be overwhelmed. So timing is crucial.

And we gotta trust the perfect timing for every single event in our life that has been decided by The Almighty.

Semua udah ada yang ngatur dan kalau dipikir-pikir kadang kita terlalu tergesa-gesa kalau menginginkan sesuatu. Jadi ada baiknya memang percaya sama Yang Maha Tahu. Jadi aku pun akhirnya belajar untuk ngga lupa meminta sesuatu dengan keterangan ‘di waktu yang tepat’ dan berdoa supaya selalu sabar dan bersyukur supaya penantiannya menjadi penantian yang indah dan baik.

Semua pasti akan indah pada waktunya. Meskipun, waktu yang tepat terkadang ngga datang tepat waktu.
ā¤ļø Atiqah Zulfa Nadia

Society Check

Scrolled down through my Instagram feeds, IĀ found aĀ very interesting picture. It quotes a conversation from Paulo Coelho’s The Zahir. Ester asked why people are sad. “That’s simple,” says the old man. “They are the prisoners of their personal history. Everyone believes that the main aim in life is to follow a plan. They never ask if that plan is theirs or if it was created by another person. They accumulate experiences, memories, things, other people’s ideas, and it is more than they can possibly cope with. And that is why they forget their dreams.”

I have been thinking about this since quite a long time ago. It begins when one of my friend complained about how Indonesians are forced to get a job right after graduating from university. Who force them? Their parents, their family, theirĀ lecturerĀ well, basically the society. Meanwhile, in some other countries, people can take their gap year after university. The gap year can be used for traveling, doing an internship, working part-time, learning new language, etc. People are allowed to choose their path (and actually be responsible about it).

Graduates in hereĀ are expected to work in the field that is related to their major. Furthermore, they are expected to be paid with a good amount of money. Truth is, it is not so easy to look for a job nowadays. People competes with thousands of other people. So it creates a high pressure for graduates.

In fact, maybe getting a job and having a promising career are not theĀ goals of all graduates. Maybe they want to dance, work freelance, be an entrepreneur, or anything else. But that’s not what society accepts (at least not yet).

I think this kind of thing also happens in other matters. For example, getting married. Currently, people, especially woman, are expected to get married at a certain age. Or buying a house. Or getting into college and choosing the prestigious major. It seems like the society has a particular path that everybody has to follow. Thus we kind of make our plan according to that path. Thus theĀ target of a person’s life becomesĀ similar to each other: after high school, entering a good university, graduating with high GPA, start working in a well-known company, getting married, buying a house, pursuing a master degree, and so on and so on.

Even without realizing it, we do a society check when we make plans in ourĀ life. Would this be what the society can accept? Is everybody doing this thing? Will I look normal if I make this particular move? Etc.

I do, too.

Well I don’t actually know whether this is right or wrong. But I do believe that we gotta do what makes us happy. And we gotta shut down those people who try to break us. On the other hand, we live in a society and we have to ‘comply’ with the ‘rule’…. or not(?)

Well, whatever it is, I hope we always follow the path that is kind and makes us happy.


ā™„ AtiqahĀ Zulfa Nadia